First, HAIR PICTURES!
And, my first pair of aviators. $9 bucks at walmart bay-bay!!
ALSO, THE WINNER OF THE NAME MY SHOP CONTEST IS KIM!
The shop is now named “Eklectic Designs”
I have been wanting to write this for the past couple weeks, but I haven’t been sure how to write it.
My thoughts on family planning, for us.
There is no secret, our kids are close in age.
17 months in fact. They are suppose to be 18 months, that sounds better right?
Teag was 9 months when I got pregnant with Arlo.
Arlo is 9 months right now.
I have had so many people ask me when we are going to get pregnant next.
I have never understood why people think it is their business. It’s not. It is our business. (end rant, sort of)
Before we were even married people were asking us when we were going to have kids, what our plan was, where did we stand on birth control, how many we kids we’re going to have. What kind of births I want, where did I stand on drugs during labour and delivery. Questions that are so personal to me, to us.
Now, I am ready to answer them.
Rich and I just talked about this the other night, after much talking, much laughing, some tears. We have decided that with Rich going back to school, practicums, and surgeries and therapies for Arlo, that we are going to wait a bit. I don’t want to have 3 kids all by myself and have Rich gone away for school. That is not how I picture the arrival of our next child, call me crazy, but I want him here.
Our plan has always been, have two close together (hello 17 months apart!) have a space and then have two close together. Our plan is 4, it might change, we might decide at 3 that our family is complete, or we might decide that we want more.
Birth control. **Feel free to skip this part, if talk about periods gross you out**
Birth control performs amazing in my body, my period comes when it is suppose to, cramps go away, its wonderful. If it is so wonderful, yet it makes me crazy. Talking about it scares me, writing about it scares me, knowing that I will never go back on any form of birth control is relieving. My anxiety levels go through the roof, I feel manic, it is scary. I am a big believer in natural family planning, to either get pregnant or to avoid pregnancy. I was given this book and in turn have given it to friends. It’s that good.
With both of my boys I was induced, I was going into preeclampsia with Teagan. With Arlo I wasn’t allowed to have in my home town (our hospital only delivers full term, no risk babies) so I had him in the city. With both boys I was drugged to the nines. Epidural, laughing gas, morphine, fentanyl, gravol. I had it all.
Next time, I want the opposite, I want water birth, drug free, induce free, all natural.
Am I against the others? Of course not, I want to see if my body can do it. I want to experience snuggling my baby for the first hours of his/her life. (With Teag, I didn’t get to hold him for the first 2 hours of his life due to him being born blue.)
Where do you stand on the issues I talked about?